Should you ask a guy what his intentions are
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Go to Page Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. Originally Posted by Ready4Love Hey there everybody!. So I'm in need of some help and any input would be greatly appreciated!. So I've been talking to this guy for a while now few months.
Today we went out on our 4th date. Our first one, we grabbed coffee and we each paid for our own things. The second date, it was just very casual and we just went for a walk. The third date, he went all out. We went out for some pool and darts, and then out to dinner, and he paid for everything!.
We even had our first kiss. Today, we hung out for a bit and then went and grabbed lunch and I picked up the tab this time. At the end of our date, we kissed again, and he grabbed my hand for the first time.
We interlocked fingers and held hands for a while while talking, and kissing on and off. Now in my opinion, things seem to be going well Which is understandable considering we've only been on 4 dates, so I would assume he's still kind of thinking if this is what he wants, etc But tbh, I'm becoming very fond of him. No feelings have developed yet, and I wouldn't even call it a crush, but after I left today and started on my way home, all I could do was smile.
But I keep wondering if he's talking to other women, etc I just don't want to do anything to mess this up lol. I know no matter what, what's meant to be will be, but I am just kind of hoping things work out.
Thanks in advance for your help! In all honesty, I don't see what the issue is. Asking a guy his intentions isn't asking him to be exclusive.
If you don't want to do anything to mess it up, don't be the woman that freaks out about what he could be doing. Go with the flow. Assume he's dating and even having sex with others. If you want to know his intentions in the general sense, ask. Most men asked me what my endgame was and I asked back. I don't think it's a big deal. However, I was also dating multiple men and they knew about it. I was on the other side of the coin recently.
Men telling me that they didn't like me dating other people while I dated them. And now I see why guys get irate with women who harp on it. So, don't do that. The more a man mentioned he didn't like that I was seeing others, the more I was turned off by him. However, I now see that I wasn't into them enough to want to stop dating others. When the right one came along, I decided to stop dating around within two dates. That speaks volumes. He asked about being exclusive on the third date.
Only you know how much you two have hit it off. I wasn't shocked at all when the guy I'm dating asked to be exclusive on our third date.
He brought up "intentions" on the first date asking the endgame - general. He brought up "intentions" on the second date more or less seeing if I will stop dating others. For what it's worth, you are getting serious if you want to be in contact all the time - phoning each other, texting, E-mailing, visiting, whatever.
It changes from an official "date" to BOTH of you wanting to be together. It doesn't matter what the reason is - shopping, laundromat, dropping him off to get his car fixed, fast food, cleaning out a basement, together helping a neighbor. Oh, and some dates too. Most normal males do not want just "dinner and movies" for a year. It's at a point where dating others is almost not possible because you are together so much.
It should be natural, patient and very caring by both parties AFTER they are both committed and faithful to each other. If you DON'T have the urge for intimacy after becoming faithful, something is going on - find out. Intimacy is normal, healthy and excellent for your relationship. Worried about STD's?? Either party should offer to take any medical test the other wants.
Why is intimacy so good besides how great it feels?? Since you are both physically naked, you are also emotionally exposed. It is an opportunity to be incredibly close and supportive. What century did that come from?? What's the reason, so he won't leave?? Sounds like extortion to me. It should be obvious to both of you how you feel. What's the blazing rush?? Afraid he will get away??? Then you probably are not secure enough with each other. You probably won't know each other until you have survived several inevitable big arguments.
Sometimes it is the ONLY way to know how you really feel. No quarrels yet?? You aren't ready - find out what you're afraid to confront. And while we're here, besides kids, what's the purpose of marriage?? Financial security - maybe. Fidelity, love? No, you both have to WANT marriage very much and willing to do the mutual hard work to keep it. And not every couple needs to be legally married to have a wonderful relationship. I know one older couple who are intentionally not married because it keeps them on their toes and their relationship "tingly".
They have to EARN the relationship every day - it is not taken for granted. Remember too that some women very much want the faithful relationship but do NOT want marriage. Originally Posted by banaman. I completely agree with all of you. I don't know, I guess I'm scared to screw things up because things haven't been working in my favor relationship wise for the last 2 years.
I start talking to a guy, things start going great, and then after a bit he backs off and either says he's not interested anymore, or starts ignoring me. This guy is the first one that has actually "stuck around" so to speak. He did back off with the texting for a bit, and I did mention that I thought he had lost interest, and he said no that wasn't the case, it's just that he's been busy. It was 2 days later that he texted me and we made plans to get together.
He still says he's interested, but he also posted a whole bunch of stuff on facebook last night. When is it okay or appropriate to ask a guy what his intentions are?
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